Looks big...but they are not!

There are many things in world which we think are not for us to do...it looks like somebody else's cup of tea! We often overlook a few small things thinkng it will not make much of a difference in life. But people who think wise have noticed tiny things that can make difference in big ways. Offlate I'm on a small project(personal) and in the process I've come across a a few 'thought-provoking' sayings and inspirational quotes. I dint realise how much they are running in my mind but Im able to feel a visible awakening in me.


The sum totality of it is this- 'Everyday is important and we are exchanging our life for it'.

Even if im not a philosophical person by nature...the thoughts in my mind are making me a person who is able to look at the world with a difference.


Ok, getting to the message...If you think about it, the hardest things on earth are neither physical nor intellectual feats. They are merely spiritual exhibition of ones better-self. Can you recollect the last time you cribbed about a person for small things like making noise when you were sleeping, or not paying attention to you when u were trying to speak. These small dissapointments or dissactisfactions can slowly grow (when it keeps repeating) and the final result could be that u develop a indifference or even hatred towards the person. This is a very small illustration, but imagine it from a different standpoint. Instead of complaining abt a person who is bitching behind ur back, imagine u started accompanying the same person for coffee or drink when time permits....please note, forgetting the fact that he/she has spoken abt u unwarrentedly...n get to develop a casual relationship with them. There are chances that they see the better side of u only when u give them a chance to, and of all probabilty they'll think back at how they spoke abt u. N definitely, sooner or later when they get to speak to the same set of audience, they will make it a point to say "Hmm, (s)he is actually a nice person..." n slowly things will take a U-turn. These are petty things...but definitely they are not something that we do in our normal course of lives. I wonder how nice the person will feel when he comes to realise that we have given him/her a feel good factor which is in reality based on 'Forgive without apology'!There have been many times when we have treated someone less important that the others (it cud have 'n' number of reasons)...one thing that i can remember is that i used to avoid some people for the simple reason that they were boring. I remember people who used to stick oround me, but I've tried to avoid them just in order to spend my time with someone else who will interest me. In this case, what are you repaying to someone who values you and have come seeking u? Its just that ur priorities have taken the frontseat leaving ur real worth to the backend. May be that since we were a kid, we are psychologically trained to oppose things that dont tally with our nature and sometimes its sad to note that we have drawn curtains to small inconsistencies.




Whatsoever... if we come to think of life as a one time experience and about people as God-made-accquaintances, then i guess we will get ourselves to live in a pleasant world :) The world is not a ready-made outfit...u can tailor it in the best n most beautiful way possible...provided u create the capacity to weave...{huh..this saying is not a bad attempt na! :)}




So according to me, there are 4 tasks which look hard, but when brought into action, can work wonders beyond understanding...
to return love for hate...
to forgive without apology....
to include the excluded...and
to be able to say ' I was wrong'! .

Trust me its working!!!

Relationship Cycle

This is something which I read and it has been running on my mind since then... A true and real fact....

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your partner wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.'

Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of togetherness, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your partner's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your relationship, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, 'Did I tag along with the right person?' And as you and your partner reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationship breakdown.People blame their partner for their unhappiness and look outside their relationship for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because :THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you.

You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your relationship work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love.